"All of man's miseries derive from him not
to sit in a room alone"
years ago, in a shabby flat
in London, my girlfriend's closest friend killed herself.
had taken a drug overdose but it is what she told my girlfriend the night
before that I will never forget.
'I hate myself. I just want
to get away from myself'.
No-one guessed what she really had in
mind that very night..
this really struck me is that a month previous, I had done a 10 day
course in a very disciplined form of meditation, that was being used by
10 days, you HAD to STOP running away from YOURSELF.
just had to sit in silence in a room and FACE all the deepest beliefs and
feelings you had about yourself.
the beginning, you FEEL very tense.
fact, you feel an overwhelming urge to get up - and do
A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G but just 'sit with yourself'.
if you can just 'stay' with these unpleasant sensations
and energies - and learn not to....
.........after a while you
experience a tremendous shift in
your body - and EVERYTHING changes.
the heaviness, pain and feelings of constriction and discomfort literally evaporates away......
you start to be flooded with delicious, new sensations of
literally experience a healing pleasure in every cell of your body.
this is a very real state.
only do you feel this experientially, but your
brain waves and whole biochemistry seems to CHANGE to accommodate
this new awareness.
something else also happens.
body releases higher levels of endorphins - a natural hormone secreted
by the pituitary gland.
In other words, you'll start to
FEEL good - and happy about yourself.
then you realize:
won't need something EXTERNAL to yourself (i.e. cigarettes or
drugs) to FEEL great.
why my girlfriend's friend death struck me as so pointless.
was another way.
was not unlovable - she only had this terrible feeling that
A feeling we all have had at some time or other.
the drugs were just a desperate way for her to change how she felt.
wasn't the drugs she wanted.
just wanted to feel
isolated. Cut off . Lonely.
couldn't connect, even if surrounded by friends
the end, like everybody else, she just wanted to lose her excessive
self-consciousness so that she could really FEEL connected and merged with
people around her.
of us, to some degree or other face this isolation, this
I'm convinced all
our problems with not enjoying life ( and sex) stem from our
Our ultra-sensitive concern with WHAT
other people might think of us!
remember reading this quote from Andrew
Cohen in his book 'Enlightenment is a secret that struck me as absolutely
people are suffering from the same agony, tormented by ideas of who
they are, who they want to be and who they don't want to be.
helps you when you realize that this predicament is the human
condition. It helps you when you realize almost everyone is
suffering in this same misery.
this can help. It can help you see through the illusion that you are
suffering in your misery alone and isolated……when you realize
that it is the average condition of almost everybody."
then I realized the great paradox is: the answer lies within
when we can 'be' with 'ourselves', and feel
relaxed, comfortable and fully at ease in 'our own skin' -
ONLY then will other people will feel fully relaxed,
comfortable and fully at ease with us!
there will be a real connection. A real intimacy. A
is the greatest discovery you will make after
you start to practice The Bliss Technique of Bliss
primary relationship is with your self.
can't escape yourself.
As the writer Emerson, points out in this famous
"At home I dream that at Naples, at Rome I can be intoxicated with
beauty and lose my sadness. I pack my trunk, embrace my friends, embark
on the sea, and at last wake up in Naples, and there beside me is the
stern fact, the sad self, unrelenting, identical, that I fled
are going to spend your WHOLE life with yourself - and
yet there is a part of you, the CORE of you that you have hardly
Bliss Meditation takes you home to yourself. To this
CORE of your being.
help you access the love energy, the bliss energy that is your
yourself: If you don't want to be with
yourself and spend time with yourself, why should others?
about it won't do any good. Reading about it is only the
key is ALLOWING yourself to experience it now in your life
"The experience of ecstasy is simply the final stage of
intimacy with yourself".
wish I knew all this many years ago in London......
here to start
practicing the Bliss Technique of Bliss Meditation now?
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